This community of people has helped me immensely since I’ve joined. I have nowhere to turn to for advice or comfort or any sort of guidance whatsoever. I left everything I knew for this person so he could follow his dreams and do what he wanted to do. I moved to another city and lived somewhere far away from my home to support him. I thought we were building this life together... I thought he was a genuine, caring, individual that would never hurt me intentionally. Well, things had been really off the past week and on Tuesday, he left for work in a hurry and left his phone at home. I hesitated to go through it because I felt an overwhelming sense of guilt but ended up doing it because I needed to know. He has been talking to exes... random girls... on dating websites.. fucking coworkers. Since the day we started talking and throughout our entire relationship. And when I confronted him about it, all he had to say was, “You should have known we weren’t going to work out.” What kind of sick person uses someone and makes them believe they are their life and then doesn’t show one ounce of guilt or sadness when they are caught? He told me it was my lack of confidence that led him to cheat. He told me it was my fault. He told me that I dont understand what “real relationship ups and downs are like” and that if I don’t think everyone would cheat on me, IM delusional and immature and I’m going to be miserable for the rest of my life. If anyone has made it this far into my sob story, thank you for listening. Idk what I‘m looking for exactly. Comfort? Advice On moving on and forward? I’m definitely not going back to him but I am beyond hurt and looking for ways to cope, I suppose. Again, thank you for listening... :/
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Hayley, I can't imagine what you are going through or feeling right now. But I think it's important that you know you're in no way responsible for his poor actions and choices.
I personally have a wonderful wife who struggles with severe anxiety, depression, self-worth, confidence, etc. The very thought of ever betraying her in a manner as you've described wounds my heart and I am astounded and frankly sickened that such a person exists.
Any true man worth anything knows that true love is to be loyal and faithful, working through the challenges of whatever life may throw at you and supporting each other through it.
I hope that this will give you a hope to know there are real, genuinely good, men out there who care deeply for the ones they love. I believe you will find the one you are destined for and he will be 100% better than...the other guy.
My heart goes out to you my friend, may your days be bright and your dreams come true.
-Xane.
Xane,
Thank you so much for your kind words and the time you took to respond. Today is especially difficult. He called and tried to convince me to come back and give it another chance. I’m already planning on getting my things tomorrow. I have a friend and her boyfriend who offered to help. His apology and his excuses are messing with my mind and now I am wanting to be around him again but I know that things wouldnt work out in the long run because I would never be able to forget what he has done. It will always be in the back of my mind. It is good to have the support of like minded people. Reading this is helping me a ton. Thank you, again. You have no idea how much your kindness means.
I know what that feeals like and I have been in your shoes where I felt alot of anger and tears and the best thing you need are good supportive friends nd family to help you by not going down spiral into depression the best spells that can work is Cleansing, Banishing, Healing your heart and mind and soul,
If you need to talk to someone I'm here too thank you
Thank you for taking the time to respond to a strangers misfortune. I deeply appreciate your words. I have been staying with my best friend of 22 years and that has helped incredibly. I also have had two job offers since I have returned home. I think that is a sign as well. I will try some of those spells and see if they help. Thank you again
Hayley, I'm so sorry. I genuinely am. First and foremost, I want you to know that you WILL get past this. Things WILL be okay again, and this is NOT your fault. Please know that this is a safe place for you to be in, and that we are backing you up and are on your side.
Yes Awesome support group here!!!!!
Thank you, kind stranger. I want you to know that your words have helped me calm down and take a breather for just a moment. I’m attempting to stay strong. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t. I’m sure things will be okay eventually but right now it feels horrible.