Hello witches,
I am practising wiccan slowly and still a very beginner. I am currently in a relationship with a lot of ups and downs. My partner is suffering from a mental illness he is not very open about it. Wonder why? Our connection is passionate but due to the ups and downs it has been very rocky. Due to his illness and differences in ways of communicating.
He has been telling me that he is emotionally drained right now. He is introvert by nature and does not have many friends, but I believe in his good nature and kind character. I actually feel like healing and helping him. He has stated that the relationship has been 50/50 good and stressful times. And has no mental strength anymore, and this hit me hard to be honest. As it is sad. We had some fights at his place and he hasn't allowing me coming to his place which has frustrated me a lot. But let him come to mine in the past five months. He says that the only way is to meet outside, but then states and doubts the relationship if it has to be this way. But I feel he is partly blaming me and not acknowledging his part (mental illness etc).
I am thinking of doing a balance spell for recovering healing and peace between us. But will this help his emotional exhaustion as it has exhausting me? More so, I suggested for him to seek some mental help but he has been avoiding the conversation. Plus that he has been secretive about this. He is saying that I should look for someone more stable. He is very sensitive, but intelligent and super kind hearted.
What is the wise step or next phase to do? Especially now the next Lunar Eclipse coming, in which I want to do some meditation for myself and healing?
I layed some Lenormand cards to whether I should do a spell for us? I got:
Stork + Lilies + Moon.
Kind regards,
Amethyst.
Hey! This can definitely be a tough situation. Before any spellwork, I'd recommend really asking yourself if this relationship is the best thing for you both, especially if he is telling you to find someone else. I know that can be hard and painful, but if you truly see it as in the best interest for both of you, then you could definitely do a balance and healing spell, or even an uncrossing, or sweetening spell, if you are going to do any spells that are on him, definitely ask for his consent beforehand. The best thing, if he has a mental illness, is to get professional help. Hope this helped.
Hey! This can definitely be a tough situation. Before any spellwork, I'd recommend really asking yourself if this relationship is the best thing for you both, especially if he is telling you to find someone else. I know that can be hard and painful, but if you truly see it as in the best interest for both of you, then you could definitely do a balance and healing spell, or even an uncrossing, or sweetening spell, if you are going to do any spells that are on him, definitely ask for his consent beforehand. The best thing, if he has a mental illness, is to get professional help. Hope this helped.
There is nothing harder than seeing someone you love going through something as painful as mental illness (ie. depression, anxiety), and the instinct is to try and fix the situation in any way you can. You want to help them out of the darkness they're in because you care about them so much. But the sad reality is, no amount of spell-work on your part or encouraging your partner to seek professional help is going to do anything if your partner isn't the one to initiate those options. As someone who has been in a relationship similar to yours, I too tried my best to help my partner deal with their depression and tendency to self-harm. We broke up because my partner was just suffering too much and ended up pushing me away. It caused us both a lot of pain and ultimately I learned a hard lesson: you can't make someone change their behavior/take the steps needed to heal if they're unwilling to do so themselves. Even if it's causing them harm. This is a journey your partner has to embark upon on their own, with or without you. There's not a spell in the book that can change that. I know that's harsh and hard to hear, but I've had many friends go through the same thing (myself included) and they ended up getting hurt really badly. Magic has its limitations and I think this is one of them. If you feel the spell is the right thing to do in your heart then follow that instinct (after getting consent from your partner of course), but just know that you can only do so much if your partner continues to be unwilling to address what they're going through/get help. Sorry this is super long! I hope you and your partner are able to heal together and find peace in your relationship again.